After my second child was born, I had always had hopes for one more a few years down the road. The last thing on my mind just then was to worry about possible infertility as I had already given birth to two beautiful healthy children. Never in a hundred years did I think it a remote possibility for me to be unable to conceive again as my first two were born 14 months apart. I thought of myself as fertile as any woman could be. I was wrong. About a year after my daughter was born, I began showing signs of a disease called PCOS otherwise known as poly-cystic ovary syndrome. I knew that ovarian cysts ran in my family, but to this extent I was taken completely by surprise.
I went to see my OBGYN as soon as possible to confirm or debunk my suspicions. I was, however, correct in my assumptions. After blood work, an MRI, and ultrasound were preformed, my worst fears were confirmed. I had previously read about this disease and learned that it could make conception near impossible. PCOS happens when multiple eggs are released from your ovary and instead of them finding their way into the Fallopian tube; they build up and cause a rather large cyst or multiple cyst to form on the ovary. It further impedes other eggs from following their natural decent and prevents them from being fertilized. It can also lead to ectopic pregnancies as well.
My OBGYN put me on hormones to try and slow my production of eggs and to prevent the cyst from growing. Unfortunately this did not end the cycle and it seemed that my child bearing years were at an untimely end. He did suggest however that I could go under the knife and have the ovary in question removed (You can still conceive with just one ovary), and in that was my silver lining. That of course was not my only option, there was IVF, surrogacy, and then of course, if all else failed, adoption.
I chose to have the offending ovary removed and continue a hormone injection as well as a fertility medication. It took a few years longer than I had hoped but in the end it worked out well and I have a beautiful son to be ever so thankful for.
This is not the case for many, but it is an option. Whatever obstacle you are faced with in secondary infertility, do not be discouraged because there are many options out there to help you become a parent again. Many things can cause infertility from medications, to maybe even your partner. I would recommend that all parties involved see a professional and make your decision from there.
I hope in all this you are able to find solace in knowing you are not alone. There are many support groups in your local areas as well as online. Reach out, there are many more just like and they can also provide you with invaluable information to make your life and hopes of conception that much brighter in the future.