When we go out and seek human interaction with the motive of bedding someone, it is a conquest if we are successful. We have triumphantly filled our bed and been deemed desirable. Our self-esteem soars, endorphins get released, and we feel a high come on. Though this act is selfish and unkind, it becomes somewhat addictive. Still, most people have a hard time differentiating this act from seeking companionship. There are a few traits that we carry when looking for a new conquest. These attributes mark our true intent. If you are struggling to recognize your motives in this area take a moment to see if these habits play any part in your behavior.
Ownership is a big part in the of “conquering” a person. Though you may never see them again or even want to it is based in having already had them. Admittedly, breaking it down like this is not flattering. Still, it is the truth. Why you would return to the object, you have already enjoyed? The answer is you would not. With this logic, the person you are with is not a person at all. They have become a thing you are using. This mentality drives the conqueror to act.
Bragging about your many triumphs makes you feel powerful. Your ego is in full bloom, and you enjoy the sensation of it. The people you harm in the process does not matter until after it is too late.
Partaking in conquests is all about control. There is no risk because there is no investment. Though acting out in this way satisfies certain urges, it lacks substance. Control is an illusion, it may work for you for a time but will not always prove helpful.