Remember when you were young and the day you’ve been waiting for was the day when you were going to hold in your arms your own child? It was easy to believe that having children is like going to market and it was easy to think that they grow up in no-time. But let me tell you, if selfishness is in your top products, then you are not that one who has the children around. And I am going to tell you why future with children is not future for everyone.
First of all, I do remember how I was as a child. I cannot believe how annoying I was back then. Okay, it’s not like it has changed in the meantime, but the point is that if you want that little sweetheart in your life, you have to be prepared for a lot of tormenting changes. Having to be prepared at anytime to make a child stop crying it’s not in my top list of priorities. I simply cannot have that patience to understand what a little living ball of meat wants to tell me while crying its heart out, and honestly, I do not plan to find out that. To me, as to many others, it may seem simply impossible to take care of someone when you can’t even take care of yourself as you should do it. The fact I want to underline is that, as adults, we should manage somehow to find out how much time, how much attention, how much affection we can spend on a being we are going to own in future. If us, adults, are not able to share more with them than with ourselves, there is no point in giving life. Would be only a shame to bring in the lonely world another lonely being. And children are not a game to play, neither a joke to be told. They require a lot of resources, so better check your fuel before going in this trip.
Then, I believe that career plays an important role when it comes to taking such a decision as having children. To me, a being who hasn’t idea if the future will bring sun or stars, neither Khaleesis or dragons, a child would stop this process of discovering. Career may not be the most important, but it’s important, as soon as money bring good education, opportunities to improve your child’s skills, chances to make it discover the world. Personally, if I’d have a child, I’d like to have him happy anyhow. And if the only things I can offer are insecurity and lack of patience, then it’s not what I want. The sad truth is that when your career is what you wanted and you are on the peak of the world, a child is not important anymore. Or it’s not a priority. Not big enough to make such a sacrifice as leaving behind your work’s child.
Finally, I want to point out the philosophical perspective. What would you want from life? I do want to have the world. And not literally, I couldn’t carry it, obviously. But somehow, I’d like to have it in my mind, in my heart. To spend minutes, hours, days on discovering its mysteries. I’d like it to be my child, and I, to be its child. To whisper things in the wind and to have them back in my ears. I want to be selfish, taking care of myself. Not being alone, having people around me, having hands to write about it, having time to offer. And I wonder how I, as a constant dreamer, could have a child? Would it be everything? I doubt it. And it has to be everything. If it’s not your everything, then it’s nothing. So, people, evaluate your priorities and your beliefs. Life doesn’t end if children are not around. And aging may not change that point of view. But well, that depends on how much you have done of what you wanted to do.