So we need to find out why, experiencing each other true love people, sometimes in a rush of emotions become, almost enemies? Why does the disorder in their family?
Unfortunately, love can not be a necessary condition of family life in which there is no conflict. Even if everything is perfect couple, they still occasionally quarrels. Love is not relieve you from conflict, it only helps them to be a little calmer.
The main reasons of family conflicts
Most quarrels at all is due to several reasons:
The need for a large part of the total time the couple spend together. They reside in the same house, in the same confined space, and each person from time to time there is a desire to be alone.
Jealousy another reason. Each person is different, and thus a manifestation of jealousy and causes of each are different. Interesting, but the results of studies it was found that after the marriage the couple begin to be jealous of each other even more than they did before. Perhaps blame a sense of ownership, which plays in each of the pair.
Another reason – stereotypes in their sexual life. People who have been married for more than a year, eventually realize that something is missing, the feeling is not the same as it was before. And to keep the novelty effect in the relationship, you need to put a huge effort that not everyone wants to do. The reasons for this may be many, but the main one – laziness. And what is the result? Quarrel, quarrel again.
Specialists in family conflicts find just such a cause of quarrels as cyclical in our lives, in the emotional communication between husband and wife. So periods of warm relations full affection and love, are replaced by rapid cooling to a loved one. Such a frequency determined by the fact that we are simply experiencing “fatigue.” Therefore, the appearance of emotional desire to relax from a loved one – a perfectly normal and natural phenomenon. It is even necessary for the person, as well as sleep, rest from work and stuff.
The main causes of family conflicts also include selfishness. Family in which one begins to pull the blanket over himself, never be able to live in harmony and mutual understanding. Therefore, the lack of attention to other people’s needs and selfish family members, perhaps the main causes of family conflicts. For example, the wife walks around the house in the old and torn coat, not thinking that her husband may be unpleasant to look at it all. Or the husband is not responding to requests wife make quieter sound of the TV when he watches another match. All these reasons are familiar to all. But unfortunately, not everyone knows how devastating effect they have on the seminal relationship as a result.
Of course, here described, not all causes of family conflicts. Yes, and every family they are unique. Importantly always remember: the best way to escape from the conflict – to try to compromise.