Your best friend calls you up and tells you the wonderful news that she just got engaged! You are beyond excited for her, and even more excited when you find out that she would be honored to have you as one of her bridesmaids.
Like most normal people, you are thrilled. For most of us, we are excited to help out in anyway possible, but how can we help without causing the bride more stress and not try to ruin her special day. Having said all that, here are Marie’s do’s and don’ts of being a bridesmaid.
Okay, ladies take notes. Have you seen the show “Say Yes to the Dress”? Well, if you haven’t, it is about a bride bringing in her bridesmaids and even family members to help her find the perfect dress. Much to my surprise, the bridesmaids aren’t very supportive, and in fact are horrible bridesmaids by bashing the bride’s choice in dresses. One of the biggest things you can do is support her decision in dresses, and she asks what you think you can tell her what you think, but in a nice sweet way, but telling her the ultimate decision is hers.
You are there to encourage the bride! Be that friend she needs you to be. Don’t tell her your horror stories of weddings, or tell her how things can go wrong. She doesn’t need to have that on her mind. She is already nervous as it is. She doesn’t need you reminding her of things that could just add to that nervousness.
Here is another biggie, do not (I repeat) do not complain about the bridesmaid dress that the bride decides for all the bridesmaids. She isn’t out to get you, or wants you to look horrible. It is hard to find the perfect dress that looks good on everyone, and you’re not the one everyone will be looking at. She is the main focus. You aren’t suppose to out shine the bride. You have to remember this day is about her and not you!
Try to make sure she has a bridal shower and bachelorette party that she will always remember. You want those two wonderful events to be relaxing. A time where she doesn’t have to think about seating, invitations, or who is mad at who. Let this be a time memories.
As for the BIG day! Try to have some food and drinks on hand to calm the brides nerves, but nothing that could mess up her dress. If you have the wonderful gift of massage or are pretty good at it, a nice shoulder massage might just be what she needs to make those last few moments not so stressful.
Lastly smile! The last thing she needs is a grumpy bridesmaid. Check your attitude at the door. Remember, it is her day, and she doesn’t need to be worrying what is wrong with you and whatever drama is going on. A wedding has enough drama. She doesn’t need yours too.
If you follow these do’s and don’ts you will make a wonderful bridesmaid.