Love can be a complicated thing. It’s one of those things that shouldn’t be, but it is, because there are so many situations involving love that can be difficult to handle or understand. Love triangles are one of those things. Some people may think, “oh that’s easy to avoid.” But sometimes we may get caught up in it without realizing it’s happening until you’re too much in the middle of it.
Believe it or not, it’s possible to love more than one person at the same time. It’s important to make sure that you ARE in love, rather than just infatuated. There’s a big difference and these feelings can be so strong, it’s difficult to determine which is which. This is one small reason why love is not always that simple. If you’re fascinated with someone because you think they’re good looking, or because there are one of two things about them that interests you, chances are you’re not in love. You’re just infatuated with an aspect of theirs that won’t contribute to building a foundation to a good relationship. In this case love takes time. Find something that’s more important about the person before assuming you want to be with them.
Most of the time, love triangles occur when you’re already in a relationship with someone. At the risk of stating the obvious, if you’ve got something good going on with the person that you’re already with don’t screw it up. Why mess up a good thing that can be permanent over a temporary fascination? In other cases, it’s not always that simple. Sometimes when a person is in a relationship, it’s not always as good as you would like it to be, and then someone else comes along and shows you what you’ve been missing, thereby, causing you to fall in love with them. It may be exciting, and it may be confusing, but being caught up with more than one person is the last thing you want, especially if a mature, deep relationship is what you’re aiming to have.
Another thing to remember, is that even if you end up loving more than one person, you’re definitely going to love one of those people more than the other person and it’s best to take time to determine who to save everyone from heartache. Someone will always have a stronger affect on you more. So figure out who it is and consider your next step carefully.
You’re going to need time to figure out what to do. Don’t think dating both will help you make the decision better. The only thing you’re going to accomplish in this case is hurting someone and that’s the last thing you should do. So give everyone some time, especially yourself, and see where your heart leads you. Don’t forget to listen to what your brain tells you as well as your heart. Do some soul searching. Discover things about yourself that you never knew existed. Help yourself grow a little bit more. If the ones you’re in love with truly care about you, they’ll be patient with you and give you the time you need to think. The more you grow and evolve, the better you’ll know what you want, and it’ll be easier to make the right decision, even if that decision means not choosing anyone to be with for awhile. If one of those people is what you want, make sure they’re the right person that will add value to your life, not take away from it. Consider who is best for you, and what’s best for everyone involved.
Be open and honest about what you’re feeling. It doesn’t help to keep secrets, and it’s best to let everyone know who’s involved what’s you’re feeling, even if it hurts. In any case concerning love, honesty and communication is the utmost important. If someone ends up getting hurt, you can at least take comfort in the fact that you were honest. Sometimes that’s all you can give a person.
I’ve had my own experiences with love, and the last thing I wanted was to get hurt or hurt someone else. In any relationship, you should give all of yourself or don’t give yourself at all. Dating and being in a relationship is about being selfless. If you’re not at that point in your life, it’s best to stay solo for awhile until you’ve matured enough to handle the difficult situations that come with love. Love shouldn’t be difficult, but life can sometimes get in the way, causing us to do things we wouldn’t normally do. Whatever that situation is, make sure you handle it with care.