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I am a 35 year old single woman. My entire adult life I have been looking for the love of my life and I am not sure what is wrong but I cannot find him. I have had many boyfriends, but they all turned out to be either a jerk, married, or just a plain loser. I consider myself a good educated woman and could be a great wife. The problem is that I cannot find that special person who would like to share his life with me. I see some of my friends and they are all happily married. Why is that the “happily ever after” can’t happen to me? What am I doing wrong that is preventing me from finding love? I do not even want to get out of the house anymore. My life sucks!
Let me give you one of the best advices someone will ever give you in your life about this. Stop looking for love. Yes, you heard me. Stop. Looking. For. Love. Love, my friend, is not something that you can go around looking for it. Unfortunately, the more you look for it, the farther it will get from you. You are still young and I know that one of these days, you will find the love of your life so relax and enjoy your life. I promise you that the day you least expect it, you are going to meet a man that will knock your socks off and will show you why the wait was worth it. When you find that man, do not immediately start making wedding plans. Allow the relationship to flow and to take its course. If he is the one, you will know. What I will suggest you not to do is to stress over it and to obsess over the idea of marriage. Let life take its course and while you wait, make sure to enjoy every single minute of it. You only have one chance to live your life so stop wasting your time looking for that special person and allow him to come to you.
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