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For the past three years, my twin daughters have been practicing soccer at their school. They are really good soccer players and I love the idea of them being part of the school’s soccer team. The problem that I have with this is that, for some unknown reason, I do not trust their coach. He seems like a great person but the way he acts around the girls makes me feel a little uncomfortable. He seems way too friendly with them. I know that as a coach, he needs to build rapport with his team, but he is taking this to the extremes. He wants to be around them all the time; even after school. There have been times when my daughters make plans to go to the movies with their friends and when I go to drop them off at the movie theater, the coach is also there. My daughters are 15 and he is 25. I do not think that a 25-year-old man should be spending so much time with the girls. Am I making a big issue out of this, or do you think I have a valid reason to be concerned?
The Soccer Mom
Dear Soccer Mom,
Yes, I believe that you have all the right to feel concerned with this situation. This coach’s behavior is not normal and you should be very careful with the way he is acting around your daughters. Yes, I agree with you when you say that a 25-year-old man should not be so involved in the lives of your 15-year-old daughters. Maybe he has all the good intentions in the world, but I just find this very odd and if I were you, I would be very cautious with the whole situation before it gets out of hands. If this issue is something that is really keeping you up at night, I would suggest for you to have a serious chat with this coach and express your concerns to him. He needs to understand that his behavior is a little weird and he needs to get it corrected sooner than later. If after talking to him, he continues with the same behavior, I guess it will be time for you to have a more serious conversation with the school director. He/she may need to become aware of the situation that way he/she can do something to get it under control before is too late.
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