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I am property manager for a large company in South Florida and I manage a group of 10 people. They are all good workers, except for one. He is always late for work, he calls in sick all the time, and recently, he was found sleeping in one of the supply rooms. I have counseled this employee many, many times and he knows that if he does not get his act together, he will probably be let go. The issue is that my wife is very good friends with his wife and she thinks that if I end up having to fire this person, the friendship that she has with this guy’s wife will be damaged. I also feel bad about the situation because they have a little girl and the wife does not work, which means that if we fire this person, they will be in a very bad financial situation. What do you suggest me to do with this situation?
The Property Manager
Dear Property Manager,
I believe that this guy is about to get what he deserves. I hate to see that your wife’s friendship with his wife is in the middle of this but as a manager, you should not allow that to dictate what you know is the correct thing to do in this case. He should be the one worrying about losing him job; not you. You already did what you thought was the correct thing to do and he still doing the things that he is doing. The sad part about this is that there are so many good unemployed people who would love to have the job this person has and the fact that he has it and does not appreciate it makes things look even worst for him. If you want to make sure you do not do something you may regret letter, you could have a last talk with this person and explain him that if he does not change his ways, he will get fire. Be very direct to him and see if he gets the message. If he does not get the message and continues to behave the same way, then I guess you will have to do what is best for your company and allow him to deal with the consequences of his mistakes on his own.
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