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This is my problem. My wife Ninnee loves to reject me when I want to have sex with her. One day is that her head hurts, the next time is that she is tired, and recently she even used the “it’s too late” as an excuse. This issue is getting on my nerves and I do not know what else to do to make her stop rejecting me. I love this woman and she is my life, but this situation is pushing me away from her. I tried talking to her, but she does not want to talk about it and said that I need to stop pressuring her. I am not pressuring her; I just want to make love to my wife and she does not want to. Any idea on what is going here?
Dear R. O.,
By reading your email, I noticed that you seem very frustrated by you not having sex with your wife instead of frustrated because you do not know why she does not want to have sex with you. I will say that before you continue feeling sorry about not being able to make love to our wife, to sit down and have a serious talk with her to see if there is something you should know about her not wanting to have sex with you. The truth is that, she may be going through a rough patch and may need a friend instead of a lover. If that is the case, your insistence on making love to her could be seen by her as an insensitive act on your part. Before you start making other assumptions, go ahead and have a talk with her and see if together, you guys can get to the bottom of this issue and see if you can join forces to make things better. If after talking to her, she continues rejecting you without any apparent reason, then I guess it will be time for you to do what you think is best for you. The thing is that only you know what is, in fact, best for you, so go ahead and have a talk with yourself and decide for once and for all what is that you want to do about this issue.
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