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My wife of 5 years left me a year ago for another man. She met this man online and after having an affair with him behind my back, one day she came home and said that she wanted to get a divorce because she was in love with this man and wanted to marry him. After trying to make her change her mind, I had to agree with her decision and signed the divorce papers. I am not going to lie. When she left me, I hit rock bottom. I was completely destroyed, but I survived. Now, I am in a better place and with a beautiful woman by my side. The issue that I have now is that, out of nowhere, my ex wife has decided that she wants to be back in my life. She would not stop coming to my house, and even suggested we should give our failed relationship another chance. I do not want to lie; I love her to death but I do not know if I should trust her. What do you think about this?
P. S. R.
Dear P. S. R.
I think that your wife needs to get her issues together. I wonder what happened with the other guy? Are they still together? Did she realize that what she did was a mistake and now wants you to pretend that everything is okay? Well, my friend; it seems like you have some tough decisions to make. If I were you, before you allow her back into your life, I would make sure she is no longer seeing the other man and that she is really coming back to you because she loves you and not because things did not work out between her and her online lover. if you do give her a second chance, you also need to make sure she understands that you will not entertain the same behavior again and if she does it again, then you guys will be done for good. The bottom-line here is that you need to develop some self-respect and take care of your heart. If she is, in fact, sorry for what she did, she will show that to you without you even asking for it. But, if she is not, then you need to be careful and protect your heart from another heart breaking situation because I can promise you my friend that the second time will be worst than the first one.
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