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One of my stepsisters is getting married soon. We have never had a great relationship and I particularly don’t care about her. The other day, my mom told me that she was planning to ask me to be her maid of honor. I seriously don’t think I should be the one for the job. I honestly don’t even like her. One of my friend feels like I should agree and just play the role. I don’t know if that’s a good idea. What do you think I should do?
Rosi from Miami
Dear Rosi from Miami,
If your relationship with your stepsister is not good, and you don’t feel like you should be the one with the maid of honor title, go ahead and tell her. You don’t have to do it if you don’t want to. Just talk frankly with her and see why, even knowing that you guys don’t have a good relationship, she still wants you to be her maid of honor. Maybe your mother has something to do with that. And if that’s the case, you should also talk to your mother about it. Again, just talk to your stepsister and see where is that she is coming from. If after talking to her, you still don’t want to do it, just be honest with her and let her know how you feel. The beauty about that is that you can still say no and she has to be okay with it. Don’t think you should do something you don’t want to do just because she is part of your family. Being named the maid of honor is a privilege, and if you don’t feel good about the whole thing, then you are in all your right to decline the offer. Don’t feel bad. Just say no, but be nice about it.
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