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My youngest son will be graduating from high school this upcoming June and he just gave us the news that he wants to join the military. He is only 17, which means that we will have to give him our permission to join. I am not sure that going into the military is what I want for my son. I was wishing for him to become a police officer like his father but apparently, he had other plans in life. He seems very decided with the idea of becoming a soldier and his father already gave him his blessing. I am very concerned with this because I am afraid that he will be sent to war and we end up losing him. Should I support him in his decision, or should I try to make him change his mind?
The Concerned Mother
Dear Concerned Mother,
I think that if your son already told you that he wanted to join the military and his father agrees with the idea, the best thing for you to do right now is to support him in his decision and allow him to do what he thinks is best for him. The truth is that being in the military and being a police office brings almost the same risks. As a prior service member myself, I can tell you that the experience that your son will get by serving his country will make him a better person and will provide him with many good opportunities in life. Military life is not as bad as people think. Is there a big chance that he will go to war some day? Yes, of course, but that does not mean that you should prevent him from doing something that he wants to do. Just give him your support and your blessing and allow him to purse his dreams. Unfortunately, either you like it or not if that is what he wants to do, he will do it eventually; with your support or without so it is better for you to stand by your son’s side and show him that you believe in him and that you will be there for him along the way. At the end, that is what parents are supposed to do for their children.
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