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My son, who is three, is getting in some big troubles in his daycare. He is a lovely kid but lately, he has been hitting his friends for no reason. Today, I was called to the daycare for a meeting with the director to discuss my son’s aggressive behavior. I have to say that this caught me by surprise because my son in a very quiet kid and he does not have a history of aggressiveness. I honestly do not know what is going on with him and also do not know what I should do to make this situation to stop before things get out of hand. The daycare already told me that if he does not get his act together, that they will have to expel him. This is so embarrassing. Who gets expelled from day care? What should I do to make things better before my son is booted out of his first school?
Dear T. N,
Have you tried talking to your son to see if you can find out what is really going on? This sounds to me like he is going through some issues and you need to try to find out what those issues are? Maybe he is being bullied and he feels like he has to defend himself by hit the other kids. Well; if you want to make things better for him, start by talking to him and see where that takes you. Also, have another chat with the school and see if you guys can get to an agreement. The truth is that unless you can get your son to behave, the school has all the right to expel him and the sad part is that this could follow him for the rest of his school age, and that is something you need to prevent. It is common for kids in your son’s age group to do some crazy and inexplicable things, but it is up to their parents to make them understand that those things are not right and that they need to correct their behavior before things get out of hand. Try doing that with your kid and see what happens. The important part here is not to ignore the issue because ignoring it will not make things better; it may make them to become worse than what they are right now.
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