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My son and his rude wife are getting on my last nerve with their constant fights. They are both very hardheaded and always get in fights and arguments with each other. I know that this should not be any of my business, but the issue that I have with this is that they do all this in front of their kids. My grandchildren are three and five, and I feel bad that they have to experience their parents’ rude behavior. There have been many occasions when my son’s neighbor, which is a good friend of mine had to call me to let me know that things are not good at my son’s house and to let me know that I should go and get the kids. I seriously think they are behaving like irresponsible parents and that one day, they will get in trouble for fighting in front of the kids. What do you think I should do?
Dear L. E,
Yes, it seems like your son and his wife need to get their act together before things get bad for them. If they have issues, they need to learn how to deal with those issues away from their children. This kind of behavior could/will cause a lot of mental damage to the kids and will make them think that it is okay to deal with bad situations the same way their parents are dealing with them right now. The truth is that kids that small are like sponges and they will see their parents’ behavior as the right way to do things. If you want to try to make things better for them, I will suggest you to have a serious talk with your son and his wife and share with them your concerns about the whole situation. They need to understand that what they are doing is wrong and that for the sake of their kids, they need to get their act together. If after talking to them, they continue to behave the same way, then I guess it will be time for you to do what you think is best for your grandchildren; even if it means to get Child Protective Services involved in the situation.
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