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This is Helenna. I am contacting you because I am super mad at my parents. They are good parents but for the past couple of months, all they do is argue. This behavior starts from the moment they wake up until the moment they go to sleep. Their arguments are not serious nor violent; they are just annoying. The funny part is that they argue about stupid stuff like my dad not putting the trash out fast enough, or my mom not hanging the towel in the right rack. I have to say that I am so done with their bickering that I am even thinking about moving out of the house. The problem is that I am only 16 and moving out is, in fact, not an option yet, but I really do not think that I can take this issue anymore. Advice please.
I strongly believe that in order for you to help them understand how their behavior is bothering you, to have a chat with them and explain them how you feel. The fact that the arguments are not about serious stuff make things a little easier for you to manage. If you want them to see how ridiculous they look arguing about silly stuff, next time they have one of those arguments, bring it to their attention and see how they react. Maybe by showing them how silly they look behaving the way they do may help you in putting a stop to the situation. Again, the fact that the arguments are harmless gives you room to deal with them in a more direct way. The truth is that parents are not perfect and arguments about towels and trash are more common than what you think. Just bare with them, and even ignore them a little. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about the issue other than make them aware of it and to hope that they see how silly they look and decide to change their ways. Do not think about moving out yet. Give them the opportunity to start behaving like civilized human beings and see how things go. At the end, they are your parents and I know they are not doing it on purpose. I guess they are just behaving like obnoxious parents.
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