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My mother is crazy. She wants me to marry this guy I barely know just because it will help him get his citizenship. I am not sure what is wrong with her, but I do not think I should do that. This guy is the son of one of my mom’s good friends and even when he has been living in the states for a while, he still don’t have his citizenship; he only has a green card. To be honest with you, I really do not care about him or his situation but my mom thinks we should help him out. I do not want to marry this person but she is making me do it. I know that marrying a person just so that he can become a U.S. citizen is illegal, and I have told her many times, but she thinks that I should still do it.
Yes, dear. I agree with you. This is not only an insensitive thing for her to do to do but also an illegal act. She needs to understand that pushing you to marry this man just so he could get his citizenship can get you and him in a lot of trouble. If you really do not want to marry this man because you are not in love with him, I will suggest you not to do it. When you feel like getting married, it should be because you are in love with the person and you want to spend the rest of your life with him; not because there is a hidden agenda behind it. Go ahead and have a talk with you mom and tell her what you think of this crazy idea. If she continues to try to push you to do something that you do not want to do and that you know is not correct, then it will be time for you to show her in writing where it says how illegal that is and see if that way she gets the message. The truth is that she cannot force you do so something that you do not want to do and even if she tries, you do not have to do it. As simple as that, my friend!
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