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I am one step away from strangling my mother in law. She is the most manipulative woman I have ever met in my life. She loves to take advantage of my husband by pretending that she is sick. Every time he goes to visit her, she makes this huge drama about how bad she feels and how sick she is so he could do things for her. Not too long ago, we even had to cancel a vacation trip that we had planned just because she was not feeling good and she needed him by her side. This woman is crazy and she is making everyone around her crazy as well. I cannot believe my husband is so blind that he does not see what is really going on here. Should I tell him what is that I think about her mom? Or, should I just stay out of it?
L. K. H.
Dear L. K. H.,
If you are sure that your mother in law is manipulating your son by saying that she is sick when in reality, she is not, then I will say that yes; you should bring that into your husband’s attention. It seems like her behavior is not only affecting your husband’s life but yours as well. Before things get out of control and your marriage starts to suffer as well because of this, you need to have a nice talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. He probably is not even aware of the situation or maybe he genuinely thinks that his mom is, in fact, sick. Or, maybe he sees what is going on and has decided to just roll with the punches. If that is the case, then he needs to get his issues together and do something about it before his marriage gets in trouble. I can see how this issue is getting in your nerves and honestly, I do not blame you, but before you continue feeling this way, have a chat with your husband and see if together, you guys can come up with a solution for this situation before it is too late.
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