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I have two kids ages 7 and 8 and I am having the hardest time explaining them that we are not as wealthy as some of their friends, but that we are not poor either. We have them attending to a private school and some of their friends come from very wealthy families. The problem is that every time my kids go to visit one of these friends, they come back home asking us why are we so poor and why are their friends so rich. We have explained then numerous times that we are not poor and that happiness does not get measured by money but they do not get it. They still think that we are poor. I feel bad about this because I do not want them to think that they are less than their friends and I want to do something to make the situation better for them, but I really do not know what to do.
I think the best thing you can do is to keep talking to your kids about the importance of other things in life besides money. I know it could be very difficult for you to keep them grounded, especially with the amount of rich kids around them but you have to continue doing what you think is best for them. They are too small right now to understand where is that you are coming from but, eventually, they will understand. One thing I will suggest you not to do is to try to make them stay away from their friends. The fact that these friends are rich does not mean that they are bad people. Allow them to be part of your kids’ life and try to deal with the money issue in a way that does not interfere with their social life. Kids are kids and they will say the weirdest things sometimes so do not take their words too seriously. You will see that soon, they will forget about that issue and you all will be able to put it in the past.
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