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I was talking to my husband the other day about doing our wills and I was very surprised when he told me that he already had one. I had no idea that he had one until he mentioned it to me. When I asked him about it, he said that he created the will when he first started working and that it was on his mother’s name. I asked him if he was planning to change it now that he is married and he said that he was not going to do that. I fell very offended by this and even when I really do not care who the money goes to, the fact that he wants his mother in his will and not me makes me feel like he does not care about me that much. I am trying not to let this bother me but my question is… why is he doing this?
Dear Hill D.,
I guess that in order for you to get to the bottom of this, you will have to have a serious talk with your husband and try to see why he is unwilling to change the will. He may have his reasons and unless you talk to him and see if he can share those reasons with you, you will never know. The truth is that, as his wife, you have certain rights, but unless he changes his will or at least adds you to it, if something happens to him, all his assets will go to his mom, which means that you could end up with nothing. If after talking to your husband, he continues with the idea of leaving his will the way it was, and if this is something that really bothers you; do yourself a favor and talk to a lawyer who can guide you in the right direction. The bottom-line is that you are his wife and he should respect you and make sure that you are well taken care of in case that something happens to him, but if he continues with the idea of leaving his mother as his benefactor, there is probably nothing you can do other than talking to a lawyer to protect “your” assets.
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