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The other day, I went to my husband’s office and found him sitting on his desk with his secretary leaning toward him like they were best friends. When she saw me, she immediately got up and left the office. When I asked my husband what her deal was, he said that she always behaves that way with him and other men in the office and that I should not pay attention to her or her behavior. After he told me that, I got really upset and told him that he needed to fire her but he said that he could not do that because she has not done anything wrong for him to terminate her employment. My question to you is; is flirting with her boss not reason enough for this tramp to get fired? Or, does she have to actually get my husband in bed before someone can do something about her behavior?
The Upset Wife
Dear Upset Wife,
Well, my dear. I have to agree with your husband. If she has not done anything bad other than “flirt” with your husband, there is not much he can do to fire her. On the other hand, your husband should know better than that. If she is well known for doing that kind of stuff with the men in the office, he is the one who needs to start setting the example by not allowing her to do it to him. He needs to talk to her and let her know that her behavior is unacceptable and that she needs to start getting her act together. The fact that he has not done it yet may suggest that he enjoys it. If that is the case, then you need to have a nice chat with him and he is the one who needs to get his act together. I believe that he is the one who needs to do something to get this situation under control before it is too late. One last thing; that “tramp” will never get your husband to bed unless he really wants to go, so if you know that your husband will never do something like that to you, then I guess you have nothing to worry about. But, if you are not sure about your husband’s ability to say no to her, then that is a different story.
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