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My husband and I moved from our hometown 20 years ago looking for better job opportunities. Since we moved, we have been traveling the world with our respective jobs. The issue that I have now is that after 20 years, he feels like it is time to go back home and start living the retiree life near our families. Even when I love the idea of going back home, I do not think that right now is the best moment to do it. I love my job and I love traveling. If I leave my job to go back to my hometown, the chances of me finding a similar job are very low. Back home things are very rough nowadays and finding a good job when you are in your 50s is not as easy as it was before. Am I being selfish by not wanting to support him in his decision?
Dear K. T.,
No, I do not think that you are being selfish. Retiring and moving back home is a big decision and one that both of you have to make based on what is best for each other. If you are not ready to move yet, talk to him and let him know why you are choosing not to go back. If he is the one retiring, he can follow you wherever is that you want to go and stay home while is time for you to retire. By doing that he will help you finish your career before you both decide to go back home and live the retiree life. He can probably start a home-based business while he waits for you that way when you guys go back home, you still have something to look forward to. If after talking to him, he continues with the idea of moving, then I guess it will be time for you to decide what is best for you. Maybe he can go first and then you can join him later. The thing here is for you to do what you think is best for you. As I always say; at the end, that is what it really matters in this life.
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