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My husband is a jerk, or at least he is behaving like one. We have been married for eight years and since day one, he has been the one making all the calls in our marriage. He is in the military and I think that being part of the Army has something to do with the way he behaves in our marriage. In our house, we always have to do things his way and honestly, I had enough. I have decided that I want to move back home to finish college, but when I told him about my plans, he made a big issue out of it and said that he needs me by his side. I am seriously done with his caveman attitude and if he does not change, I may end up leaving him. Why military men have to be this way? I love him, but I am getting tired of his demanding attitude.
J. L. I.
Dear J. L. I.,
It seems to me that Mr. Military Man needs a dose of reality for him to be able to change his controlling ways. The fact that he told you not to follow your dreams just because he needed you by his side tell me that he really cares more about his own needs than anything else. If you really want this situation to stop, I would say; go ahead and have a real nice but serious chat with him and explain his how his behavior is rubbing you the wrong way and see what he has to say about it. I have to say that not all military men behave like this so we cannot put them all in the same category. It seems like your husband has gotten used to make all the decisions in your family and you have allowed him to do so. Do yourself a favor and make him aware of the issue and see how together, you guys can find a way to deal with the situations without you having to make any drastic decisions.
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