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I am a hard working woman, and for the past couple of years I have been saving money to buy a house. My husband was recently laid off from his job and has been spending his days at home, looking for other jobs on the internet. I have been very supportive with his situation, but recently, I noticed that he has been buying stuff on the internet using the money that I have saved for the new house. I already confronted him about it and he said that the money is his money as well and that the things that he is buying are for us. I am very upset with this situation, and I do not think is correct for him to be spending the money that I have saved just because he wants to. We do not need half of the things that he is buying and the other things that we do need, we could have waited a little longer before buying them. I am so upset with his right now that I even thought about putting the money in an account that I have that is only on my name so he could not touch it. Is that a good idea?
The Money Saver
Dear Money Saver,
It seems to me that Mr. Shopaholic needs to get another hobby. The fact that he is at home “looking” for jobs on the internet, while spending all your savings on stuff that you surely do not need tells me that he is getting very comfortable with his current situation. I think is time for you to have a serious talk with him and explain him how you really feel about the whole situation. If after talking to him, he continues with his shopping sprees, I guess the more intelligent thing for you to do is to put the money in a different bank account where he cannot access it. Do not wait until he spends all your money to try to fix this issue. He needs to understand where is that you are coming from and at the same time, he needs to get his little behind out of the couch and start looking for a job if he plans to continue with his “new” hobby.
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