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My husband of three years is getting on my nerves. He is a great man but he does things that makes me want to choke him. Lately, he has wanted to spend a lot of time with my parents. I am very happy that they have a good relationship, but I also do not like the idea of him wanting to be near my parents all the time. I love my parents, but they could be a little annoying sometimes. I know that the fact that my husband does not have a good relationship with his own parents probably is the reason why he wants to spend so much time with my parents. I am okay with him wanting to visit them on the weekends, but there are weeks when he wants to go to their house every single day. Is that normal? Or should I be concerned?
Dear V. N.,
I am not sure how big of a deal this issue is but I have to say that I do see where is that you are coming from. Maybe you are right and the fact that he is not close to his own parents makes him want to be close to yours. I do not see anything wrong with that. However, if this situation is getting out of hand and his closeness with your parents is something that is creating more concerns in your life than actual joy, I guess it is time for you to have a talk with him and tell him how is that you feel. Probably he has no idea on how all this is affecting you and by talking to him, you will help him understand why it bothers you so much. Just be nice about the whole situation and explain him why you think is not a good idea for him to be so involved with your parents. If after talking to him, he continues wanting to spend time with your family, then I guess it will be time for you to honestly tell yourself if this issue is really that important for you to continue losing sleep over it.
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