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My grandfather died couple of months ago and since the day of the funeral, my five-year-old son wants to sleep with his lights on. The first couple of days, I agreed because I thought that he was going to get over it soon, but it has been three months since he started doing this and I think it needs to stop. The issue is that when I try to turn the lights off, he starts crying and would not go to sleep until I turn them back on. Any idea on why this is happening? He is a normal and very intelligent, bright kid and was never part of the funeral or anything related to my grandfather’s passing, but he thinks that if he turns the lights off, grandpa will come to get him. Should I take him to talk to a professional about this? Or, should I ignore it for a while and see what happens?
Dear S. B.,
As much as I think that what your son is going through is just a temporary phase, I will suggest you not to ignore it. Ignoring it may not make the situation to get better and if you want your son to feel better soon, I will say to go ahead and make an appointment to see a professional as soon as possible. Your son may be going through a rough patch following the death of your grandfather and if that is the case, talking to a child psychologist could help him deal with the situation better than you ignoring the issue. Before you go and see the doctor, talk to your son to see if you can find out exactly why is that he does not want to turn the lights off. Having all the details of what is going on with your son, will help you at the moment of the appointment. If I were you, I would not worry too much about it. I am sure than soon, your son will start feeling better about the whole situation and he will start acting as the normal and bright kid that he was before all this happened.
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