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I am writing to you about my father and his stripper girlfriend. My father lost his wife (my step-mom) a couple of years ago. After she passed away, he became obsessed with the idea of finding a new wife. At the beginning, I agreed with the idea because I did not want him to be alone. The issue is that after visiting a strip club with my brother, he immediately fell in love with one of the strippers who was working in that bar. He is head over heels for this girl. I have to say that after meeting her, I agree that she is not a bad person, but the fact that she works in a strip joint while my father is a well-known businessman makes things a little complicated for him. He is so in love with this person that he is even thinking about marrying her. I do not know what else to do to help him come to his senses. I want him to be happy, but not with a stripper.
Dear Dora J.,
Let’s face it; this is your father’s life and not yours so before you start becoming a pest in his life, I will suggest for you to step to the side and allow him to be. He is not a little kid anymore and he knows what is good and what is not good for him, so let him enjoy his life by the side of whoever he thinks is right for him without you trying to interfere with his life. If he is really in love with this person, then I guess there is nothing you can do to prevent him from seeing her. The truth is that the fact that her job does not match your father’s job does not mean that she is not good for him. That being said; I will suggest you to stop worrying so much and be happy for your father. He finally found someone who makes him happy and, at the end, that is all it matters. If after giving him the opportunity to be with this person, you still feel like he is making a big mistake, then go ahead and talk to him and explain him how you feel; but again, if he really wants to be with this person, it would not matter what you do, he will still be with her so maybe it is better for you to stay away from his business and worry more about yours.
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