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My daughter, who is 15, had expressed her desire to pursue an acting career and has asked us to allow her to move to California with her aunt so she could start attending castings. I really love my daughter and want her to be happy, but the problem is that my husband thinks that she is too young to be doing the acting thing and is not allowing her to go and pursue her dreams. I tried talking to him about it, but it seems like he is not changing his way of thinking. My daughter is heartbroken and all she does now is cry. She is a good kid and I have zero doubt that she would succeed, but unless her father stops being unreasonable about the whole situation, she will never get to try. How can I help my daughter achieve her dreams without having to start a fight with my husband about it?
The G. N. B.
Dear G. N. B.,
I strongly believe that, if you want to help your daughter out and you think that what she wants to do is what is best for me, you may have to have a serious talk with your husband and see if you can convince him to allow your daughter to go and pursue her dreams. The only problem is that, if he already made up his mind, it will be very difficult for you to make him change his mind. What I would suggest you to do is to do some research about what is that your daughter will be doing while in California and the role that her aunt will be playing during the whole process, and present the information to your husband. Maybe after he sees that there is a well-established plan behind the whole thing, he may change his mind. But, the important thing here is to make sure that the “plan” that you present your husband is a true plan, so that you ensure the safety of your daughter while in California. The last thing you want is to send your daughter there and then realize that you made a mistake and that your husband was right the entire time about not allowing her to go.
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