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Have you heard about a sport called rugby? Well, my 13 year old daughter just told us that she wants to join her rugby team at school. Since I did not know anything about this sport, I decided to do some research and almost died when I saw how violent this sport is. I believe that this sport should only be played by boys and I seriously do not want my daughter getting involved with something so violent. The problem is that my husband thinks that I am exaggerating and that I should allow our daughter to play whatever sport she wants to play. I know that he is right, but I am just afraid that she will get hurt. I have no told her about my concerns yet because I do not want to ruin the moment for her but at this point, I do not even know what to do. Any suggestions?
B. T. R..
Dear B. T. R.,
I strongly believe that if playing rugby is something that your daughter wants to do, I will say; go ahead and support her. Yes, rugby is a violent sport and to be honest with you, there is a big possibility that your daughter may get hurt one day. But, my question for you is; how is rugby any different than any other sports out there? Playing sports have its risks but that does not mean that kids should not be allowed to practice them. Since your daughter has expressed her desire to play this sport, what I would suggest you to do is to do more research about the sport and see if you can learn of ways to help her become more proficient at it. Once you review the information, make sure to pass them to her. I think that once she learns of ways to practice the sport in a safe way, the chances for her to succeed will increase. I think that your daughter is very brave for wanting to do this and because of that, she needs to know that you are proud of her and that you will support her along the way. I understand that, as a mother, you are concerned about your daughter getting hurt but my question for you is; how do you think she would feel if you do not allow her to play the sport that she really wants to play?
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