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My 10 year old daughter’s teacher called me the other day telling me that my daughter has been telling everyone in her school that I do not love her and that I treat her bad. I do not know why she is saying all this, but the thing is that those allegations are not true. I love my daughter to death and I would do whatever is in my power for her to be happy. What I do not do is to treat her like a princess or to buy her all the things she wants me to buy her. I have rules in my house and she is expected to follow them and I think that is the reason she is behaving like that. I already talked to the teacher and explained her what the issue is, but I think that she did not believe me. How do you think is the best way to deal with this situation?
A. A. B.
Dear A. A. B.,
It seems to me that your daughter is going through a rough patch and needs some type of counseling or guidance before things get out of hand and you end up with social services knocking on your door. I will suggest you to have a serious chat with her and explain her how serious the situation is and the consequences of it. She needs to understand that because you do not do things her way does not mean that you do not love her. She also needs to understand that if she has any disagreements with you that she has to deal with them in a civilize way for the issues to be successfully resolved. Going around telling people that you treat her bad is a serious allegation and could get you in a lot of trouble. She is still a kid and may think that “bitching” about you with other people is cool, and that is the reason why you need to make her aware of the seriousness of her accusations. You may also want to have another talk with the school and explain them (one more time) what is going on so they know that your daughter’s allegations are not true. The important part here is to try to squash the rumors before things get out of hand and also to see if you can get your daughter the counseling she needs before is too late.
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