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My daughter recently broke up with her boyfriend and now, she is heartbroken. They were only together for couple of months but she became really attached to him. He seems to be doing okay with the whole issue, but my daughter is a wreck. I have tried everything you can imagine to try to help her feel better but she still feels as if life has no meaning for her anymore. I am not sure what happened between them but what I do care is that my daughter is hurting and I do not know what to do to make the situation better for her. Can you please give me any suggestions on how to deal with this? It breaks my heart seeing her like that. She is a great girl and I know she will feel better soon. The problem is that she feels miserable now and I want to make things better for her right now.
The Heartbroken Mother
Dear Heartbroken Mother,
The best thing you can do to help your daughter go through this is to give her your unconditional support and to make sure she knows that she can come to you at any time. Right now, she needs a friend and a shoulder to cry; so give that to her. Dealing with a break up is very hard but having a great support system in place makes things 10 times much easier than if we try to deal with the situation alone. In order for you to help her deal with the situation, you need to stay calm and be there for her; mentally and emotionally. Show her that you understand what she is going through and that you will be there for her along the way. If you want to do more than just giving her mental and emotional support, you can try to sheer her up by getting her out of the house so she can try to enjoy herself a little. Take her to get her hair done, to get a massage, or even to the movies. This will be a great time for you guys to connect in a different level. Use this situation to your advantage to become close to your daughter again while helping her nurse her broken heart.
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