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I want to write to you because, after reading your column the other day, I think you can help me come up with a solution for a situation that I have. I moved to the United States seven months ago; not because I wanted to, but because my job required me to do it. I have to be here for two years. I seriously do not like the fact that I have to live away from my family and in a country that does not treat foreigners good. In more than one occasion, I have felt how people here do not seem to be happy with us living here and my kids have felt it as well. Because of these experiences, they have decided that they want to move back to Chile to live with my mother. I hate the idea of them leaving me, but I had to agree because I do not want them to suffer anymore. Am I making the right decision? Why people in the U.S. treat foreigners like if they are not human beings?
I am sorry your experience in the United States has not being a good one. As a minority myself, I have to say that I completely understand how you feel because there have been occasions when I have felt exactly the same way as you are feeling right now. I am not sure why this kind of situation continues to happen in my country, and I want to apologize to you for these people’s behavior. In reference to the decision of sending your kids to live with your mom, I have to say that it probably is the right decision if what you are looking for is to provide mental stability to them. I know that having them away from you is probably not the best situation for you, but if giving them the opportunity to go back home will prevent them from feeling bad about the whole situation, then I guess you have to do what is right for them. The good thing is that this “living arrangement” is only for two years and I can tell you that those two years will pass very fast. Good luck!
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