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My boyfriend of three years has an obsession with Jennifer Lawrence. He is always looking for her on the internet, and every time she has a new movie, he runs to watch it. I do not mind him liking her as an actress, but I think his love for her goes more than just liking her for her movies. I think he is truly obsessed with her. He told me that for his birthday, he wants us to go to LA and see if he can get to see her walking in the streets of Hollywood. I think he is losing it, and I do not know what should I do about it. The new development in this craziness is that he wants to see if he can get her email address out of the internet so he can write her a message and see if she wants to come with him to our college graduation party. Is this guy for real? Should I be concerned?
The Girlfriend of a Possible Stalker
Dear Girlfriend of a Possible Stalker,
I think that your boyfriend needs to get a dose of reality and see for himself how crazy he is behaving. Liking this actress is one thing and obsessing over her is a different thing. The sad part about this issue is that it is a very common situation and it happens to more people than what you think. Unfortunately, it happened to your boyfriend. What you can do to help him get over this actress is to try to make him understand how bizarre his behavior is and see if he gets the message. Do not play his game because if you do, he will continue with the obsession. Have a chat with him and let him know how you feel. If after talking to him, he continues with his obsession, then I guess it will be time for him to go and see a professional who can help him get rid of the obsession. And, do not go to LA with him. The last thing you need is for him to get arrested while trying to get into Jennifer’s house while you wait for him in the car. That would not be a good situation for him nor for you.
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