Need a quick answer to a career or personal dilemma? Career and life coach Marielys Camacho-Reyes will answer your concerns in her column “Ask the Coach.”
I think I have to have a chat with my boss about the treatment I am receiving at work, but I do not know if I should. The reason I want to talk to him is because his treatment toward me is very different that the treatment he gives to the men who work in our office. He is always making exceptions for me when things needs to get done and his point for doing that is because I am a woman and that I should not be doing that kind of stuff. The truth is that I have never asked for special treatment nor I appreciate that he thinks I need it just because I am a woman. I want to get this situation sorted out sooner than later, but do not know how to handle it. My question to you is this: What do you think is the correct way to bring this issue to his attention without making a big deal out of it.
The Female Worker
Dear Female Worker,
I think that the best way for you to address this situation with your boss is by having a serious chat with him in which you explain him how you feel about the treatment and the problems this issue is causing you as a person. You are correct; the fact that you are a woman does not mean that you need special treatment. When you talk to him, explain him how his behavior is affecting you and that you will appreciate for him to start treating you the same as the other employees in the office. Probably, he is not even aware of how his decisions are interfering with your life. Just give him the chance to know how you feel and to change his behavior. The truth is that the last thing you need is for people to start making assumptions on why the boss is treating you one way and them a different way, so try to put an end to this as soon as possible not only for your own mental health but also for the sake of your professional life.
Would you like to contact “The Coach” for a quick advice? Send her an email at email@example.com