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I have a quick concern and would like to know if you can help me out. My boss does not believe in God and that is creating a lot of issues at the office. The other day, we all received the invitation for a co-worker’s wedding and when we started making plans to go to the religious ceremony together, our boss started saying all kinds of stuff about how he did not care for the religious part of the wedding and that he was only going to go to the celebration part. I found his comments very tacky, but did not say anything because I did not want to start an issue. The thing is that as much as I would like to ignore what happened, it bothered me and I cannot just let it go. I would like to bring to his attention that what he did was wrong, but I do not know if me saying something to the boss about what happened could be consider insubordination. Advice please.
The Religious Girl
Dear Religious Girl,
No, I do not think that you telling your boss how you felt when he made the comments will be considered insubordination, unless you use a confrontational approach. His behavior was very unprofessional and he needs to know how his words affected you. I could be possible that he did not even realize how he offended you with the things that he said and talking to him about it could help him realize now what of a jerk he was. I will say; go ahead and talk to him and explain him how you feel about the way he managed the incident and express him your desire for the behavior to stop. If he really means well, he will get the message and will not do it again. If on the other hand, after talking to him, you see that he does not care about how you feel or that he has no intentions on changing his ways, I will suggest you to go and have a nice chat with the HR department in your agency. They will be more than happy to hear about this little incident and I am sure they will do whatever is in their power to make things better for all the people involved in the situation.
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