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I recent started working on a cruise line reception center, and from the moment I started working in there, people have been sending me friend requests in Facebook. I usually do not add people in Facebook unless I am real friends with them and people I work with are not considered my real friends. The problem is that I am afraid that if I do not add these people, they will start thinking that I am not a friendly person and I’ll end up having no friends at work. I do want to make friends at work. What I do not want is for people to start snooping through my Facebook page, especially people who I just met. Does it look bad if I do not add them to my profile? Would they think badly of me if I do not do it?
The New Girl
Dear New Girl,
Oh, good old Facebook. If Mark Zuckerberg knew what he was getting people into when he developed Facebook, maybe he would have changed his mind of going forward with it. I do not know what is worst, not having a Facebook profile or having one. What I can tell you about your situation is that if you really do not want to add this people into your profile, to stand by your decision and do not it. You are correct; the fact that you work with these people does not mean that you are friends with them, and they need to understand that. Giving people access to your profile will put you in the position of allowing people to know things about you that you may not want them to know. That being said, do yourself a favor and hold on to those friends’ requests until you feel 100% sure that you want to say yes to them. If you do not want to send the wrong impression to these people, I will suggest you to go ahead and talk to them and explain them why you are not accepting their requests yet and that your decision has nothing to do with them; that is just a personal decision. I am sure they will understand your position, and if they do not understand where is that you are coming from, them I guess the problem is theirs and not yours.
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