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After my husband’s insistence that I go on a vacation with my girlfriends, I decided to finally do it. I got all my friends together and we went on a two-week-long vacation. We had the best time of our lives. We really did, but when the vacation was over and I came back home, I realized that my husband had left me. He moved out of the house and went to live with his new girlfriend, who happened to be a good friend of ours from college. I had no idea he was cheating on me nor that he was planning to leave me. But he did. Now, here I am all alone, desperate, and heartbroken. I see now why he needed me to go away. I feel so bad and cannot believe this is even happening to me.
W. O. P
Dear W. O. P
I guess you husband had a hidden plan and you missed the memo. I am sorry to hear that this happened to you, and I completely understand why you feel the way you do. This is very sensitive situation, and it will require you to understand that what happened was out of your control and that in no way should define you as a person. What you need to do now is to gather all the pieces of your broken heart and move on with your life. If he made the decision of walking out of the marriage, then let him be. Unfortunately, if he made the decision already, there is no much you can do to make him change his mind, nor I will suggest you to do it. Have some self-respect and continue with your life the way you were doing it before. Try to keep yourself occupied with the things that you like to do and spend time with your friends. It seems like you have a great group of friends and the truth is that friends are considered the best cure for a broken heart, so use that to your advantage. I promise you that, eventually, your life will start to make sense to you again and you will even find someone that will respect you as a person and will show you how it feels to love and be loved again.
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