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Three months ago, I went on a business trip to New York and while there, I met a man who stole my heart from day one. We spent practically my entire time there together. We had the time of our lives and he is someone who I would love to spend my life with. Since I left NY, we have been communicating via email, texts, calls, etc., and everything is going great. I really like this person and would love for him to be with me, but since we live so far away, this is not possible. To be able to be together, one of us would have to move and, at this moment, none of us can do that. I live in LA and have a great job and he lives in NY and also have a good job. I do not know what is going to happen between us but I just cannot get over the idea that I met my soul mate in this business trip and now, we cannot be together. Why this kind of stuff happens to me?
The Business Woman
Dear Business Woman,
The only suggestion I can give you about this is to take one day at a time and see where life takes you. If this person is, in fact, the person who you will be spending the rest of your life with, eventually, you guys will find a way to be together without having to push the issue or stress over it. I know it sucks that you want to be with him now and you cannot do it, but I also do know that there are ways to work things out around that. You guys can travel to see each other as often as possible, or you can plan vacations together. The point here is to try to work around it to make the relationship work. One thing that you and him need to have very present is that long distance relationships are very hard to maintain and it will require both of you to work hard to make it work. But again; just take one day at a time and see what happens. Unfortunately, if you cannot move to where he is and he cannot move to where you are, there is not much you can do about it. Just enjoy what you guys have at this moment and allow time to decide what is going to happen with the relationship.
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