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I am a 37 years old military wife, who for the past 16 years has been following her husband around the world due to his military career. I really love my husband and for that reason, I decided to put my career on hold to be able to maintain our family together. The problem is that I am no longer happy with the situation. I want to feel productive, and also feel like I have done something productive with my life, other than been a supportive wife. That being said, I was thinking about starting a new career. The problem is that I don’t even know where to start. I have some ideas, but because I am outside of the USA, I don’t know how can I develop them into something real. What do you think I should do?
The Military Wife.
Dear Military Wife,
I really commend you for wanting to do something for yourself. It is very common for wives who are following their husbands around to become complacent with the role they play in their family; and honestly; that is okay. Stay at home moms work as hard as any other professional. However, for those who want to feel like they are also helping to bring the bread into the table by working outside of the house; changing jobs every time their husbands gets stationed in a different place could be a very frustrating situation. Being there, done that! The important part here is your willingness and desire to make something better for yourself. Now that you have decided to make it happen, I will suggest you to start by brainstorming about what is that you would like to do and the options you have. You have to know what your options are in the place you are currently living in to be able to have a better idea on how to proceed. Once you decide what is that you want to do, start improving your skills or acquiring new ones that could help you in performing the job better. Last, but not least; start putting yourself out there. Start making connections and applying for open jobs in the area of your choice. That my friend, would be only way you will reach your goal. What I won’t suggest you to do is to sit down in your couch waiting for the opportunity to come to you because believe me; that will never happen.
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