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I have a serious issue. One day after work, I went to have some drinks with my friends from work and after I got really drunk, I told one of my friends that I had a crush on her husband, and to make things worse, I even tried to kiss her husband while she was away in the restroom. I really do not know why I did it and to be honest; I did not even had an idea that I did it. The next morning when I went to work, she called me a tramp and asked me to stay away from her husband and not to talk to her again. Apparently, the husband had told her what happened between us and she got really upset. I honestly never meant to hurt her or to betray her friendship, but she thinks that I did it on purpose. I feel terrible for what I did and do not know what to do to make the situation better. I am not a tramp; I just had too much to drink.
Let me start by saying that having too much to drink should never be the excuse to behave badly. You probably did not know what you were doing and I have to give that to you but, one thing you cannot do is to use that as an excuse to make people to be okay with your rude behavior. If you do that, you can kiss your social life goodbye because people will not want to spend time with you if they know that you have a fame of doing crazy things when you are drunk. Unfortunately, what you did is done, and you will never be able to take it back. What you can do now is to make sure your friend knows how deeply sorry you are for what happened and to promise her that it will never happen again. But, make sure you never do it again because if you do, your credibility will go flying out of the window and you will be losing her friendship and probably other people’s friendships for the rest of your life.
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