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I decided to contact you because I can’t take my wife’s “sicknesses” anymore. She’s always complaining about feeling sick but doesn’t want to go to the doctor or take any medicines. She will complain and complain but will not do anything about it. she’s driving me and the kids insane. I don’t think she’s really sick. I think she’s just imagining that she’s sick. Is that normal? How can I make her understand that she needs to either go and see a doctor or stop this craziness? If she doesn’t get this situation under control, she may end up all alone. I’m sad to say that the kids are getting tired and I’m getting quite annoyed by the situation. She’s a great woman, but she’s putting a string in our relationship with her behavior.
I have to say that, I agree with you. She needs to go and see a doctor as soon as possible. If she is, in fact, feeling as sick as she says she is, she needs to see what is wrong so that the doctor can make her feel better. If, on the other hand, she is imagining everything; she also needs help. This is not a healthy way of leaving; not for her and honestly, not for you or your kids. My suggestion for you is to try to be a little more supporting with her. If she is really feeling sick, she needs your support and if she is not sick, but thinks that she is sick; she needs even more support.
According to Mayo Clinic, “while having some anxiety about your health is normal, full-blown hypochondria is so consuming that it causes problems with work, relationships or other areas of your life. Severe hypochondria can be completely disabling.”
Talk to your wife and explain her “your” concerns and try to make her understand the importance of seeing a doctor right away. Explain her that this may be the only way of making her fell better. Things will not get better for her unless she gets the help she needs.
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