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I have a 10 year old daughter who is the light of my eyes. She is everything to me, but I think she has some serious mental or emotional issues. The problem that I have with her is that she is constantly telling lies. I have caught her is some horrendous lies and even when I bring it to her attention, she acts like it is not a big issue. She basically thinks that is okay to lie. I am thinking about taking her to see a professional, but I am afraid that they may take her away from me. What should I do with this issue? Is this situation as serious as I think it is?
The Concerned Mother,
Dear Concerned Mother,
Yes, dear; I also think that the situation is as serious as you think. I am not sure why your daughter is behaving that way and my only question for you is; is she witnessing this kind of behavior in someone else in the house or at school? Maybe that is the reason why she thinks is okay to lie. If that is the case, then you have to take charge of the situation and make that behavior to stop so that way, you can send your daughter a message that it is not okay for her to lie. Another thing you could do is to start holding her accountable for her decisions. It is okay to bring to her attention that you know she is lying but you also need to do something about it and by holding her accountable for the things that she does or do that are not correct, you will also be sending her a message that lying is not a nice thing to do. If after trying this, your daughter continues with the lies, I will suggest you to take her to see a professional who can identify why is she behaving that way. I do not want to scare you but maybe there is something more serious going on in her life that you need to be aware of. What you cannot do is to ignore the issue and think that it will get better because, yes, it probably will get better after she passes that “rebellious phase,” but what if it does not get better? Do not take that chance and try to make the issue to stop from once and for all before it it too late.
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