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The other day, I saw something that I wish I never had seen. I was in a BBQ at my uncle’s house and all the family was there having a great time. Since I had to use the restroom, I went inside of the house and that is when I saw my aunt and my stepbrother (who is 19) making out in one of the bedrooms. As soon as I saw that, I got out of the house and went back to the pool area with the other people. I do not think they saw me because couple of minutes later, they came back to the BBQ area as if nothing was happening. I felt really bad about this whole situation, but I felt even worse for my uncle who probably does not have an idea of what is going on between those two. I tried to tell my dad about this but I stopped because he will probably kill my stepbrother for doing this kind of stuff. What do you think I should do?
The Concerned Stepsister,
Dear Concerned Stepsister,
If I were you, I would start by talking to your stepbrother and let him know what you saw. Maybe by bringing to his attention that you know what is going on between your aunt and him, it will make him feel bad and push him to stop doing whatever is that he is doing. If after talking to him, you still have the feeling that he may not stop his behavior, then you should talk to your aunt and bring to her attention that you know what is happening. Maybe, that will help her come to her senses and stop cheating on her husband with your teenage stepbrother. If after you talk to her, the issue continues, then I will suggest you to just stay out of it and allow time to take its course. The last thing you need is to get involved in a family dispute over something that does not even concerns you directly. They are both adults and they knew what they were getting themselves into when they decided to start their relationship. Let them figure out what to do with their own issues and stay out of it. Eventually, they will get caught and that is when you can go ahead and tell them both… “I told you so.”
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