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For the past couple of years, I have not been feeling good. I am very tired all the time and at the same time, I have been experiencing pain in my joints, arms, and legs. I went to see a doctor as soon as the symptoms started and he ran some tests but they all came back negative. Unfortunately, due to the fact that all the tests came back negative, the doctor couldn’t find what was wrong with me. Amazingly; this is not the problem I wanted to share with you. The problem is that I still feel the same pain and exhaustion, and my husband thinks that I am making things up. I can’t even complain about the pain anymore because he will start insinuating that everything is in my head. This situation is very frustrating because I do feel the pain in my body and I know something is not right with me, but I don’t have a way to prove it either to my husband or the doctors. I was doing some research on the internet the other day, and I read something about “silent health conditions.” Do you think that’s what is happening to me? Or, do you think that my husband is correct and everything I am feeling is just in my head?
A Very Sick Person
Dear Very Sick Person,
The first thing I will suggest you to do is to go back to your doctor and ask him to run some other tests. There is obviously something wrong with your health and he needs to try to dig a little bit deeper to see if he can get to the end of it. On the other hand, if you think he is not trying hard; ask for a referral, and go and see a different doctor. Perhaps, a specialist who is more experienced with the type of symptoms you are feeling. In the mean time; stop worrying about what your husband thinks is happening to you and continue trying to see if you can find out what is causing you those symptoms. He is not a doctor and if he is not giving you the support you need, I guess he doesn’t deserve to be paid attention to. Your health should come first. Everything else can take the back seat.
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