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I can’t believe this is happening to me. I just met a guy not too long ago and after seeing each other for a while, we started sleeping together. The problem is that I think he gave me an STD because since the first time we had sex, I have been experiencing some weird symptoms down there that I have never felt before. I did some research on the internet and it looks like whatever is that I have is caused by an STD. What should I do? I really like him and would like to continue with the relationship, but on the other hand; if he did give me a STD, I don’t know if I can trust him again.
A Very Confused Person
Dear Confused Person,
I am really sorry for what is happening to you. What I can tell you is to put a stop to that relationship, at least until you find out if, in fact, this person gave you an STD. If that’s the case, I will strongly suggest you to look for medical advice as soon as possible, and at the same time; start reconsidering your options. If this person knew he had an STD when you guys started seeing each other and having sex, and didn’t tell you anything; he not only put your health in jeopardy, but also took advantage of you. I don’t think that’s the kind of relationship you want to be in. Please, go and see a doctor sooner than later. If you do have an STD, you need immediate treatment before it turns into something worst. In the mean time; stop having sex with this person. If he wasn’t man enough to be honest with you about his health situation, you should not be wasting your time with him nor trusting him with your life. Your health is more important than anything, and if he doesn’t seem to care about not putting you in a difficult situation, you need to do it yourself. Remember; today, he probably gave you an STD; what would he do tomorrow?
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