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I am not sure what is wrong with me but lately, I have been getting envious at other people’s accomplishments. I mean; I do get happy for them but later on, when I am by myself, I start thinking about it and I catch myself feeling jealous of them. I always work very hard to accomplish my goals but I do not get half of the recognition that other people get. I would love to have that feeling of accomplishment, but for some reason, I never get to feel that way because nothing good ever happens to me. While others are celebrating their accomplishments, here I am, feeling miserable about my own life. What is wrong with me? Why am I feeling this way?
The Envious Friend
Dear Envious Friend,
I hear you and I have to admit that there was a moment in my life when I felt exactly the same way you are feeling right now. Would you like to know what I did? One day, I decided that it was time to stop feeling sorry for myself and to do something about it. That being said; my suggestion for you is to stop feeling sorry for yourself and to start doing something that can, in one way or another, help you earn people’s respect and to do things that can put you at the same level as your friends. I am sure they are not getting these recognitions just because they are pretty people. I bet they are working hard to be able to get to where they are right now. Well, do the same. If you want to shine at work, start by doing more than what is expected from you; volunteer to complete tasks no one else wants to do, create something new, and/or do something beyond your call of duty and you will see how people start noticing you. But, if instead of doing that, you just sit back and continue feeling miserable, I can promise you that things will never become better for you and your friends will continue to enjoy the benefits of their hard work while you continue to fall behind.
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