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I know that what I am about to say will probably sound bad, but unfortunately, it is a reality in my life right now and I do not know how to deal with it. I am single woman who is currently involved with two men at the same time. One of these men is a co-worker and the other one is my neighbor. They are both great men, and even when both of them know that what we have is not a serious relationship, both of them seem very interested in being with me on a more serious note. I really like both of them, and it breaks my heart that, at the end, I will have to choose one. Honestly, I wish I could be with both of them forever, but I know it is not possible. Is feeling this way as bad as my mom think it is?
The Player (According to my mom)
Dear The Player,
I hate to be the one who tells you this but I agree with your mom. You are behaving like a player and that is not a good thing. You mentioned in your email that you are not in a serious relationship with these men but you do not mentioned if they know about you having a relationship with both of them at the same time. If they know and agree to it, then I guess you guys can do whatever you think is good for all of you, but if, on the other hand, they do not have an idea of what is going on, you may need to start getting your situation corrected before it gets out of hand. There is a big chance that soon, they will find out about each other and then you will look like the player your mom thinks you are. One question I have for you is; how would you feel if a man was doing something like this to you? I am pretty sure you would not like it. Am I right? Well, if that is the case, I will suggest you to stop playing with these two men and start making good decision in your life. No one deserves to be played like this and, at the end, you may be the one who gets hurt the most.
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