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My best friend and I know each since high school. We are practically all the time together. She knows almost everything about me and I know almost everything about her. I really love her to death. The problem is that recently, I found out that she has been talking bad about me with one of her co-workers behind my back. She has even shared with this person some of our private conversations. I felt very offended by her behavior, and because of this, I confronted her. She denied everything and promised me that she hasn’t said anything bad about me to anyone. The thing is that the information this other person has, I only shared it with my friend. I am sad to say that I don’t trust her anymore but I feel bad getting her out of my life. We have been friends for a long, long time and I can’t see myself not having her in my life anymore. Am I overreacting? What should I do?
The Betrayed Friend
Dear Betrayed Friend,
Before you make any decisions about the future of your friendship with this person, I will suggest that you talk to her one more time and try to find out if she really talked bad about you or if she was just trying to find guidance to help you deal with a bad situation that you may be experiencing. In your message, you don’t mention what is that she said about you, but I assume it was something very serious for you to even think about getting her out of your life. Again; talk to her and let her know how you feel. She may have valid reasons for doing what she did. Just try to hear her side of the story before making any drastic decisions. If, on the other hand, she did talk bad about you, then it’s time for you to start thinking about the things you want to share with her in the future, or if you still want to be friends with her. But, talk to her and give her a new chance to tell you what really happened. That will be the only way you will know what is that you need to do in reference to this situation.
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