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I have a very ugly scar on my face and I have to say that, I hate it with my life. Since the day I got that scar, my life changed for the worst. I remember the kids at school making fun of my scar and calling me scar face. After a while, the bullying stopped, but even after the bullying stopped, I continued to feel bad about myself. Now that I am an adult, I still feel self-conscious about the scar and even when people seem not to care about it, I continue to worry about it. I would like to do something to get rid of the scar but apparently, the only choice that will really work is to have plastic surgery. Unfortunately, I do not have the money to pay for the surgery and that makes me very sad because it means that I will never get rid of this scar. Advice, please!
Dear Scar Face,
I am sorry you had to experience such a cruel experience in your life. The truth is that experiences like that could easily mark us for life and, in your case, that is exactly what happened. My suggestion for you is to try to put all that in your past and make peace with the scar. It seems like unless you are willing to pay for the plastic surgery, the scar will remind for you for the rest of your life and to be honest with you, that is not something that should keep you from enjoying your life. Life is full of other nice experiences, and a scar should not be the reason for your to be unhappy. On the other hand, if the scar is really bothering you, I would suggest you to make an appointment to go and see a dermatologist and see if there is another less expensive alternative that could help you in minimizing the appearance of the scar. I know that there are some inexpensive treatments out there that work really well for this kind of stuff, so you should go and see a doctor and see if he/she can tell you which treatment could be good for you. But, the important part here is to try as much as possible to be happy with who you are and not to allow that scar to rule your life. At the end, accepting things in your life that you cannot change will help you to be in peace with yourself and to move forward in life.
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