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I am writing to you because I would like some advice on how to deal with a situation I have at work. This is my problem. I was hired not too long ago to provide administrative assistant to a very busy office. I am not going to mention which office because, it really doesn’t matter. The problem is that, after couple of weeks in the job, I started noticing some things about my boss that I didn’t like. At the beginning, I thought that the “weird vibe” I was feeling was because I was new and didn’t know him that well, but after a small incident with him, I confirmed that it wasn’t me making things up in my mind, and that he, in fact, is not trustworthy. I really like my job, but unfortunately, I don’t trust my boss anymore. I wish things were different but, they are not. At this point, I don’t know what to do. I can’t afford to lose my job, so quitting isn’t a choice. Can you help me figure things out and see how can I fix this issue?
The New Girl at the Office.
Dear New Girl at the Office,
If you want to fix the issue that you are facing at work, my first suggestion is to have a nice chat with your boss. There could be a very big chance that he doesn’t even know what is upsetting you. Set up an appointment with him that way you guys can talk without any disruptions and tell him, very honestly but respectfully, what is bothering you. Most times, these kinds of situations at work can be managed by effectively communicating with the other person. If after talking to your boss, you feel like he has not changed (or will never change) his ways, and his behavior is putting a damp over your job performance, then your next step will be to take a trip to the human resources office to seek guidance from them. One thing that I want you to know is that you don’t have to accept any kind of behavior (not even coming from your boss) that could put your emotional health in jeopardy. Again; start by talking to him, and if things doesn’t get better, go up in the chain of command. One way or another, the issue will be resolved. Just don’t sit around waiting for the situation to get better by itself because; it may never happen.
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